How To Love Your Travelling Companions Top Tips For A Great Holiday Part 4
Sun, sea, sand and sex���so many couples go on holiday with such high expectations, that many of them are bound to be disappointed with their holiday sex lives.��And it's not just couples for whom sex is a holiday issue, what about the holiday romance situation when you are travelling with friends and sharing a room?��Who brings who back to where?��This article looks at why sex can be such a problem on holiday and what you can do to improve your holiday sex life.
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You might think it is only when lovers go on holiday that this is anissue, but what about the holiday romance situation when you are travellingwith friends? �Who brings who backto where?� Are you happy for yourfriend to bring someone else back to the twin bed in the room you aresharing?� This is probably a goodtopic to bring up before your holiday.�Do you let your drunk friend go back with some stranger to his hotelroom?� I suppose for me, I'm nothappy if there's a third person in the room, but as long as they are sleepingand nothing else is going on (give them an hour or so of privacy) and I don'thave to deal with his bare bottom, I'd rather my friend stayed in my room � andthank the Lord it's never quite come to this!
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As for sex with your boyfriend, I think that so many relationships failafter a holiday because you imagine that without the strain of work and everythingelse sex will be sensational, orgasmic and intimate.� Sometimes it's not.�Add jet lag, add the noisy couple next door, add tummy troubles, addmoney worries and arguments, add "you made me sit in the ESPN bar allnight and watch the NBA play offs instead of taking me in a carriage ride roundCentral Park � haven't you seen Sex And The City?" add the guy in theB&B saying "don't worry I've installed lots of surveillance cameras",add a ten hour journey, add having your wallet stolen, add too many cocktailsand you may just find that the sexy lingerie you packed looks like just anotherthing to do, when you'd really rather put your feet up and have a cup of tea.
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It can also be fantastic � even when things have been off to a rockystart.� Take the surveillancecameras � yes, one off-the-cuff remark by the owner of a B&B in York and Idid refuse to take my clothes off on what was supposed to be a romanticweekend.� I actually borrowed myboyfriend's boxers and T-shirt to sleep in.� There was a bit of under the covers action, but it was, let'sjust say, under par.� As we weredriving, after two nights of this, to our next destination, one night in aremote Ramada Inn I started giggling because tonight we were going to have "abovethe covers" sex � it made me laugh because some guys only get that ontheir birthday!� And yes it made upfor the dodgy nights before.� Whenwe finally got home the next night exhausted from the weekend, I was more inlove with him than ever, as I said to him as he got up at 5am to go home andget ready for work � "I just wish we had the time and energy to have sex."�
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The truth is that while holidays can allow you the time and energy to havesex, and even help you work out your frustrations, whatever is going on in yourrelationship is baggage that generally comes with you.� You can use your trip to distract youfrom them, or to take time to deal with them.
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On my last trip with my boyfriend we were the manic tourists that wealways were, and grumbled at each other over our usual niggles, playing thegame of the old married couple who know each other so well that they can orderfor each other, and acting as if we had all the time in the world, as if theonly clock ticking was to that flight home.� It was only when I was looking at a big red balloon heartthat I wobbled and I saw through the illusion, to the fact that he was leavingand how much I was going to miss him, and I understood why we were playing thegame, because it was just too painful to look directly at.� So we kept playing.� Our sex life was equally confused, werewe an old married couple or lovers saying goodbye?� I'll always remember the sunset at the airport, as we waitedto board our plane, saying goodbye to the holiday, and at last we couldn't denythat we would soon be saying goodbye for good. �Looking back I can see that the holiday was also trying totake a holiday from our situation, that by arguing about the silly littlethings you argue about on holiday we were avoiding talking about the really bigissues, issues that we had discussed, agreed, but that neither of us were happyabout.
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So the answer?� If you wantgreat sex on holiday?� Try to do itabove the covers, try to give yourselves a bit of time to indulge instead ofrushing around, buy some ear plugs, (a good night's sleep is for me one of thebest aphrodisiacs!) and sometimes the answer is just to put on the sexynegligee you brought even if you are not in the mood, even if you have beengetting at each other, because sometimes it can be so worth it.�
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Best of all try to work out your problems and issues before you go away,rather than carrying them with you.
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You may not work out your issues with your lover, friend, mother or evenyourself, before you go on holiday.�It may all happen magically as you stand before one of the world's greatnatural feats, or architectural icons, or get rubbed down in a Moroccan spa,that you realise those issues are so insignificant compared to your deep lovefor that person, even if that person is yourself. �Or you may just get tired, stressed or angry enough to blowup and open up about something that's bothering you, and you may finally clearthe air.� Or you may keep a lid onit, knowing that you are really incompatible and you can't wait to go home, orthat next time you'll do things differently.� Or you may get on that plane knowing that no matter how muchyou care about each other that the holiday is over and there is a real worldwhere you can't be together. �Andif that should happen, remember
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